015 - What happens in our kids' body and mind when they lose control? - With Mercedes Oromendia

Welcome back to \"Parenting the Intensity!\"Today, we have a very special guest joining us, Dr. Mercedes Oromendia, a trilingual biocultural psychologist with expertise in parenting, children, and trauma.In this episode, Mercedes and I dive deep into the world of parenting emotionally intense kids. We explore why children act the way they do and what actually happens in their bodies and mind when they\'re seemingly out of control.We cover:The importance of open communication and emotional expression in parenting: Emphasizing the importance of parents being able to openly express both love and frustration towards their child (not to them of course, to a safe person). This open communication creates a safe space for discussing the challenges of parenting and allows parents to reflect on their own behaviors and patterns.Treating children differently does not mean being unfair: Mercedes addresses the challenge parents face when their children start complaining about fairness. She emphasize the importance of parents reflecting on their decisions and being confident that they are doing what is best for each individual child. Treating children differently does not necessarily mean being unequal or unfair, as each child has different needs and circumstances.The power of understanding a child\'s history and triggers: Mercedes, who specializes in supporting foster and adoptive families, acknowledges that not knowing a child\'s entire history and medical background can present challenges. However, she stress the importance of understanding a child\'s story and triggers as much as possible. This understanding can help parents navigate and address their child\'s intense reactions and behaviors.
\"I love my kid. I don\'t like my kid right now. That\'s okay too.\"
Show notes and transcript of the episode over hereWhere to find Mercedes:Manatee WebsiteFacebookInstagramResources referenced by MercedesHand model of the brain by Dan SiegelThe boy who was raised as a dog by Bruce D Perry
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